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Why I Hate Fall, But Love Pumpkins
For me, the autumn isn’t a crisp middle point between summer and winter. It’s a bitter reminder that my already hard days are about to get harder and that there is nothing I can do about it.
How One-Sided Awareness Campaigns Hurt More Than Help
This week I saw a video that was released on Lady Gaga's VEVO channel by a group she is working in partnership with called The Hunting Ground. The video is in a larger sense connected to another group called It's On Us. Lady Gaga performs a song, "Til It...
Getting Started in Therapy
In a previous post I talk about all the reasons I hate therapy. Because I do. But it doesn't matter if you hate it. There are compelling reasons to get off of your couch and go to someone else's couch. You can go back and read the reasons, but for the sake of...
“How Are You?” and Other Loaded Questions
How do we conquer, “How are you?” when the very question makes us want to cry?
When You Don’t Want to Go to Therapy
I don't like going to therapy. I don't like talking to new therapists. I don't like talking about my feelings. I don't like talking about my traumas. I don't like having to think of a "safe place". I don't like being vulnerable. Keeping this blog takes a lot...
Popularity Contestant: Quitting While You’re Behind
I wish I could say that I don't struggle with the persistent fear that no one cares about my writing. Everywhere I look online I'm being pointed at another article about how to market yourself, write engaging content, be productive, and ultimately somehow succeed....
My Dreadlocks and Me: A Story About White Privilege
I think I've had all the kinds of hair a person can have. Red, brown, blonde, black. Curly, straight, wavy. Short, long, bald. My hair and I have been on a long journey. I grew up hating my hair. Then resenting my hair. Then, eventually, loving my hair and resenting...
What To Do When You Don’t Want to Talk About Your Mental Illness
I answer a lot of questions about DiD and PTSD. I answer questions about anxiety, trauma, depression, rape, and self-injury. I talk to people about verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and even spiritual abuse. Sometimes, I don't want to talk about it...
An Open Letter to Tywanza Sanders’ Niece
The topic du jour seems to have moved on to the Confederate Flag, the SCOTUS ruling on gay marriage, and whatever else we're supposed to be angry about this week. But I haven't had much else to be angry about since June 18th. My whole world stopped spinning when I...
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